The conflicts between us-

[Angela]

Have you ever found yourself in a major disagreement or battle with a sister in the Lord?  You felt like she was trying to hurt or destroy you?  Ladies remember that our sister is not the real enemy.  The enemy may be wearing her clothes and talking with her voice, but the real enemy is satan himself and he is out to destroy us, our purpose and our relationships.  Sometimes I don't remember that quickly enough and my first thought might have been to lay hands on my sister, but I thank God that He catches me and my spirit engages before my flesh can act.  Am I the only one?  How do you handle these conflicts?  Are you still struggling with what she looks like, what she is wearing, how she talks or the way she is around your husband?

[Angela]

How we respond in these situations is key.  God has taught me that as I stated before the other person is not the real enemy.  In many cases God is using the situation or circumstances of that relationship to grow you into the person that He has destined you to be.  Instead of getting mad, I have learned how to say thank You, Lord for the test, understanding it is another opportunity for me to grow closer to Him.  Yes, it is difficult, but the outcome is more rewarding and honors Him.

[Angela]

Ladies if your sisters husband does not respect her by being faithful or leaving you alone, you can respect her by not allowing him to use you as the person that he cheats with.  Cheating is not just physical, cheating can also be emotional.  Don't let him use you to stroke himself or to make up for what he is not getting from her.  You can make him get it at home or at least not get it from  you.  And don't make the mistake of believing that you will be able to treat him better than she did.  You do not know what she is putting up with and she is your sister.

[Angela]

I was just sitting and thinking how much joy  the enemy gets out of watching us fight among ourselves.  He knows that if he can keep us fighting each other we will not have the time or the energy to do what needs to be done to fight him.  I want to share a scripture with you my sisters and my brothers and encourage you to fight the right fight.

Ephesians 6:10-18:

The Whole Armor of God
   

   10 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we[a] are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

   13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared. 16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.[c] 17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

   18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.[d]


Stop fighting each other and save your energy to fight the real enemy.  Choose the right fight.

[Angela]

I was thinking about this again.  If you watched the video of Shelley and Larry Reichenbach, you heard our sister say that God gave her the opportunity to minister and share Christ with the woman that had an affair with her husband.  God's desire is for us to have a forgiving heart even toward those who have hurt us and Shelley showed us that.  We should all pray to be able to minister to and show love to those that have hurt us as well.  It may be difficult, but the bible is clear that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us, even show love to the ones that hurt us.

[Angela]

How do you approach a married man and show his wife the respect that she deserves as his wife?  A friend and I were discussing this today and we had some ideas. 

1  Never walk past her
2  Approach her first and ask if it is okay to talk to her husband
3  Approach them together.

I have heard many of my married female friends complain about the way women call their husbands on the phone.  They do not acknowledge the wife at all.  We believe you should acknowledge her as a courtesy and ask if he is available and if it is a good time for you to talk to him.  It might even be nice if you gave her a heads up related to what you want to talk to him about.  You might as why-this lets her know that your motives are pure and will definitely keep the drama down, if your motives really are pure.

What do you think?

[Angela]

What she is wearing and what she is doing is not the real issue.  The real issue is that thing in side of us that wants people to be like we are.  We are all different.  If there is something you can do to help a sister, help, but don't criticize her because she is not like you.  If we were all the same it would get pretty boring.