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Time For A Heart Exam!

If we did a heart examination on you what would we find?


Women are advised by their physicians to do monthly self-breast exams to ensure that nothing has changed and that don’t have any abnormal growths that could be hazardous to our health. Why is the heart any less important? We need to do a daily heart exam to make sure that we are on the right path and not doing something or going in a direction that would be displeasing or dishonoring to God.

Taking an honest look at yourself and your feelings how would you describe your heart? We can pretend like it does not matter, but last week we learned that out of our hearts flow the issues of life, the things we hold on to. What are you holding on to? What has your heart, peace, joy, love, envy, jealousy or strife? Be honest because if we are not honest nothing will ever change.

God is examining our hearts every day. What is He seeing? Is it good or evil? What motivates you, your own self-interest or God’s purpose for your life, yours not someone elses?

I believe that we all have experiences or times in our lives when evil might try to take control, the question is what do we do during those times. Do we allow evil to take over or do we take immediate control and make sure our hearts remain pure and free from the things that make it hard or dirty?

We have all seen the situations where the married spouse is lead astray, by the cute female with the batting eyes or cute shape. She was motivated by a desire to have that specific man and he was lead by his lust. Easy to look at someone else and see what is leading them, but I think it is often a little harder to do our own heart exam.

When you do a breast exam, you rub your fingers on the breast feeling for abnormalities. To do a heart check it may not be as easy, but one of the things that might point to an abnormality might be our response to situations.

How do you respond when someone steps on your toe? Do you automatically think the worst and assume they did it on purpose or can you give them the benefit of the doubt and assume it was an accident and they did not mean to hurt you? If your first response is to assume they did it on purpose you might be operating out of some prior hurt that you are still carrying. If your automatic response is to fight and defend yourself in every situation it might be an indication of some deeper issue.

If your heart is broken, hurt or hardened, either condition will stop us from receiving the full blessing God has for us because they will keep us locked up and blocked off from the blessings of God. The broken, hurt or hardened heart share one thing in common, in each case there is a wall of protection to keep it from being hurt again. Whenever you have a wall of protection around your heart you also have a wall that stops blessings from flowing through to you as well.

What about the things we could do to bless someone else but we don’t do because we are not going to help anyone else, because we feel that no one is doing anything for us.

The truth is we all have to look at what motivates us and examine it. You may have a desire to be married, but is it okay to steal another woman’s husband? What if he told you that he is unhappy and has been unhappy for years? Is it okay to plan your future with him at the cost of his current wife and children? Is it okay to destroy his family for your own self-interest or happiness? What about refusing to help someone when you have the means and the ability to help, because you are selfish? Is that God?

You are the boss at your job, so you get a group around you and make calls to people to ask questions, not to gain information, but to poke at the answers and put them on the spot. What motivates this type of behavior, a need to feel important or is that God?

What motivates you, your own self-interest or the purpose of God? Daily we all have the option of doing things that please the Lord or doing things to please ourselves. Every day we have to make a decision. The decision will be based on what is in your heart, because what is in your heart is the root or foundation for your decision making process.

Many choices have been placed before me over the last few months and I have been astounded by my responses. A year ago, my decisions would have been different but today, because of God and all that He has been and is to me, my heart is more open to new opportunities and I am more able and equipped to do what pleases Him. He has done a work on me from the inside out that has made my heart more pure and my motivation more Godly.

Do you have a desire for peace and not evil? Do you have a desire to manipulate situations to get your way? Will you sleep with a man or woman that is not your spouse to ensure your position?

The scripture in Jeremiah 17:9-10 says, “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.”

When I read that scripture it is telling me that the heart is deceitful, that means I can’t trust it because it will lie to me. Has your heart every lied to you? Has it ever told you something that later you found out was not true? Has it ever drawn you into a situation that was not one that you needed to be in? Our hearts will lie to us and allow us to believe that what we are doing is okay, but God is examining our secret motives. Why are we really doing the things we are doing? Why are we bringing this man or woman special gifts? Why are we going out of our way to make this person or that person feel special, why are we really doing it?

We can tell people anything, but God knows the truth and He desires that we begin to honestly search ourselves to find the real reasons we do the things we do. Why did you take that person’s phone number if you really don’t intend to call? Why do we allow people to do things for us when we know that they have feelings for us and we do not have any feelings for them in return? We say, but they know how I feel, but you also know how they feel, so what is your real motivation? Why do you run into the bosses office or to the pastor’s office all the time to talk about nothing, just wanted to make sure they see you and know you are there. What is your real motivation?

We all need to think about the things we say and do to determine what our real motivation is, why do we do the things we do and when God examines it will He be pleased? Is what we are doing moving us towards our future, the one He purposed for us or the one we chose for ourselves? At the end of the story, what do you want to receive rewards for doing what was right and pleasing to God or the things you were striving for?

We have all heard the stories of the men or women that worked very hard for years to get a man or woman from their spouse. Worked diligently to break up the relationship to win the prize of that man or woman for themselves only to get them and find out that it was not all that they thought it would be. All that it cost them was not worth it and they are not even happy with what they did get.

We all have to get to the place of knowing that if my motivation was wrong the end result will also be wrong. You have seen it and so have I, but now the focus is on us. What about us? What about my heart? How bad is it? What about my motivations? Am I doing it for the right reasons or the wrong ones? Do my reasons give God glory? Does what motivates me lead to closer to Christ or farther away from Him? What rewards do my actions deserve? If we find ourselves at a place during our Heart Examination realizing that we are off track our Heavenly Father is gracious enough to allow us to do a course correction.

We might have to do some apologizing and repenting based on what has already been done. We might have to accept some due rewards or consequences based on our previous actions, but we can stop now and get it right. If you know that you are not in the place God called you to, because you were deceived, seek God for clear direction on next steps. If you have to go back and apologize to some people that you wronged, do that because God may lift His hand and not give you all that you deserve, but it is going to take something from you a real honest heart examination and course correction to stop your due rewards.

As we went over this lesson as part of our life group, I was reminded that every thing we need to identify when we do a heart exam does not have to be negative.

There are some good things that are just not God things. A desire to do ministry, when God has not called you to it is a good thing but if it is not the calling God has on your life it could lead you astray. Personally, God had to reveal that I was attempting to do a bible study with a woman I had met. While it was a wonderful idea, she and I were not on the same page spiritually.

God has called me to do things in a very different way. I understood where my sister was, I had been there myself until God showed me that what He wanted from and for me was very different. It is not always easy or comfortable for me, but I know I am following His leading and He is gracious enough to put me back on track when I fall away. My reward was that the situation blew up. My fault. If I had handled it when He first started nudging me it could have ended differently.

But my heart that was deceiving me, wanted me to continue down a path that was good, but not God’s path for me. It looked good and had a good sound until we attempted to put it together and like oil and water it just did not mix. One of my good friends told me a long time ago that everyone is not going where I am going and I have to be careful not to try to take them or to even expect them to understand. I think I finally got the message. God has put me specifically in a place where I know I have to submit, I don’t get to just do what I want to do,

I have to do what He tells me and that means obedience, order and submission are the order of the day. My end motive has to always be to give Him glory.

Identify what is in your heart, where you may be off track and deal with it before God does.

Scripture References:

Jeremiah 17:9-10
9 “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? 10 But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.”

Copyright 2005-2007 New Beginnings Holistic Fitness Ministries. All rights reserved


Identifying Your Own Personal Haran!

Where are you really supposed to be? Is that the relationship God had for you or did you choose for yourself? Is it the house you are living in that is not the one God told you to buy? Are you struggling financially because you made your own financial decisions apart from God?

Sometimes our Haran is a time of preparation. A time for God to prepare us, for the place that He is really taking us, a time of preparation for our Canaan. I found myself in my own personal Haran. A place of helping others accomplish what I believed God had given them to accomplish, but knowing it was stopping short of the place God had really called us to be, short of Canaan.

God called for a ministry that was to touch people’s lives holistically. We were supposed to help people become what God wanted them to be physically, emotionally, relationally and spiritually, yet we never spoke of anything except exercise. We presented a new product to help them lose the weight but nothing to help them know how to present themselves in their new condition.

I was called of God to speak His Word, I had been equipped to counsel women, the broken, and those that struggle in their marriages, yet I found myself in an exercise class where the main topic of conversation was not one that uplifted or promoted our real reason for being. Nothing about the class was moving us beyond our present condition in any way except physically. Once the weight was lost would the class participants even know how to carry themselves? Would they be the same people they had been or would they be changed on the outside and still broken on the inside.

I was in this class equipped to provide the help that was needed, but doing nothing, I had stopped short of the destination, I had stopped in Haran. My reasoning was that the people were not ready or desirous of hearing about God or dealing with any issues. How they got to their current condition was not something they wanted to deal with or so I thought. The truth is I had not asked. I had made an assumption based on an experience with one person not the group. I expected my leader in this venture to press it through and to dictate what needed to be done.

I had taken no responsibility for any of it, I was just along for the ride or so I thought.

That was never God’s plan. As new ideas presented themselves and new ways of reaching people came up, I had an opportunity to make a difference, but I had become dissatisfied in Haran, but not willing to move into the position God had called me to. Ministry was being delayed by my frustration. Frustration brought on by my own lack of movement. The truth is that how we behave in Haran is important. If we have to be there we might as well make the best of it. But for me everything seemed to be taking too long, nothing seemed to be happening, yet I was still sitting there frustrated.

I had to make a decision to move forward. Yes, I learned some things during my time in Haran, but the truth is that I was supposed to go through it, not stay in it. What was I supposed to do?

  • Assess the situation
  • Seek the Lord in Prayer for Direction
  • Based on God’s Direction, Plan a strategy for moving forward
  • Move forward as God directed

God gave me clear direction. It was His intention that I use my gifts in this place as I moved forward to my God ordained Canaan. Haran was my training ground. I was to spend time their learning how to and perfecting my trade, but I was not supposed to stay. My failure to understand God’s real intention delayed my move forward. I was waiting for someone else to lead in an area that He has specifically prepared me for. What would my next move be?

  • To establish some support group opportunities for the class participants where we could minister to them physically, emotionally, spiritually and relationally. Attempting to identify root causes of they physical condition and to help them reach their goals and be balanced.


  • Sharing success stories and testimonies
  • Sharing fitness tips and challenges
  • Sharing healthy recipes
  • Providing encouragement and support
  • To provide outlets for those who were not able to be in the classes to call in or e-mail us for additional support in their efforts.
  • Provide free resources and support via our free website www.mynbfitnesscommunity.com and have coaches that would give them additional tips and encouragement.
  • Providing audio and video recordings via the New Beginnings website www.mynewtemple.org site to encourage people to become fit in every area of their lives.
  • Use of FaceBook and Conference Calls to encourage, to interview and to minister to those that need encouragement.

This is my Haran story. I have been here too long. I don’t know your story, but I want to encourage you to think about it. Are you in a place that you know was not the God ordained place for you? What are you willing to do about it? Are you willing to stay in the same place you are in right now? Do you want to see a change in your life as you move into the thing God really intended for you? Do you want to walk in all the power that God has designated to be yours?

Abraham was called by God. He was told to go to Canaan, but he stopped in Haran. That is not where God told him to go and he ended up staying there longer than he was supposed to. His staying caused everything that God had for him and those that were with him to be put on delay.

What about you? Has your Haran experienced caused the things you were supposed to do to be put on delay? Are people waiting for you to get to the place you are really supposed to be? Have you chosen to take the wrong people with you or to carry too much old baggage? Is the blessing God had for you on delay? Mine was and I have decided just like you have to, to get my blessing off delay and to move forward in the direction God has for me.

I don’t look at my Haran as a negative experience but a time where I learned, was prepared and equipped. I will not complain about my Haran, I will use it as a steppingstone to my God ordained Canaan. God knew I was going to stop here, the question is not whether I would stop, but what I would do with the stop. Will it be time wasted or time that God will work together for my good and the good of others. Remember Joseph had his own personal Canaan, but it was used for God’s glory and yours can be also.

Genesis 11:31-12:2:
31 One day Terah took his son Abram, his daughter-in-law Sarai (his son Abram’s wife), and his grandson Lot (his son Haran’s child) and moved away from Ur of the Chaldeans. He was headed for the land of Canaan, but they stopped at Haran and settled there. 32 Terah lived for 205 years[a] and died while still in Haran.
1 The Lord had said to Abram, “Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father’s family, and go to the land that I will show you. 2 I will make you into a great nation. I will bless you and make you famous, and you will be a blessing to others.

Copyright 2005-2007 New Beginnings Holistic Fitness Ministries. All rights reserved


Guard Your Heart!

This is a message to my sister friends. Many of them are in a place where they are allowing themselves to be used for their knowledge, gifts, finances, bodies and other attributes because someone has seen what is in you, but is not willing to pay the price to have you. Stop giving what you have to a bad investment with the hope that it might work out, he might at some point see you for who you really are.

Women have a tendency to put themselves out there, you know what I mean we extend ourselves and what we have to people that we probably shouldn’t without any concern for our own well being. God wants us to help others but He never said He wanted us to allow others to hurt us or take advantage of us for their own gain.

The truth is that whatever we love will direct and pull us. We have to make sure we don’t love anything more than we love God. That person that tells us they love us but keeps us hidden from family and friends may not really love us but be toying with our hearts. All the complicated relationships on Facebook, it really should not be that complicated. But it is not their fault if we allow it to happen, we have to take some responsibility for what we allow in our lives. Ladies we have to guard our hearts. Proverbs 4:23: 23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.

We often hear about women that give to men financially and physically with the hope of gaining the prize of his heart and she never gets it because it was never meant to be. Or she has what she thinks is his heart until she realizes his heart was never available to her.

She was never part of God’s plan for him. He just wanted to be friends and after he gets all that she has he reminds her of the original agreement. He never wanted her like that but we work at it and fight to be in the position, doing more work than necessary, he just wanted what she had to offer and since she was offering it so willingly, he took it. We have to be honest with ourselves and deal with the person the way they are dealing with us.

Recently, I heard a saying that I had heard many times before, but this time it struck me and landed. The advice is this, “Don’t make a priority out of someone that makes you an option.” That person has become to familiar with you and may not realize all that he or she has in you so they end up taking advantage of what you are offering, taking you for granted. When we recognize our own value to God it is much easier to identify these types of situations and relationships and to avoid them, but we first have to realize our own value. Even if that person does not recognize all of our gifts or what a blessing we are God does.

God has set us apart for something very special we cannot allow ourselves to be used up and our time wasted in a position He never intended for us. I said we hear about those women, but the truth is that many of us have either been those women or we are still operating in that place.

We have placed those men above our own children, providing for them and taking away from the very children God gave us to care for. Making sure he has what he wants and needs and leaving our children to go without. Why because we think we have to have that man, even though he is doing nothing for us and doing nothing to help us move toward where we are supposed to be going. We make negative comments about him talking about what he does not have, yet we still want him, the question is what is wrong with us? It is time for us to take a check up from the neck up, if he has nothing, why do you want him?

We as women will even begin to hate or despise other women that we have never met based on what he told us about her. We forget that there are two, somebody told me three, sides to every story, his, hers and the truth. Most people when they tell a story tell it in a way that makes them look good. Yet, we forget all of that when we take a side against another sister we don’t even know believing every word he told us. We want to kill her and forgive him and we don’t even know her.

If we have not heard all the sides we cannot take a side, we need to take a position of hearing, showing compassion or caring and then praying for God to give us a clear understanding of what happened and to guard our hearts against becoming overly involved in his situation. Remember that even if what he said happened really did happen, just the way he said it did, you were not involved in it and he has to deal with his own past. You want and deserve a man that is healed and whole to go into a relationship with and if he is still stuck on what happened then, he is not ready for you. We should not be trying to fix him for ourselves.

Fixing a person is God’s job. If you decide to invest time and energy in helping someone it should not be with any hope of anything for yourself. Too often we do it with the hope of getting the prize in the end. Guard your heart so if he or she does not pick you, you will still be all right, there should be no ill will, root of bitterness or unforgiveness that develops or grows when you are operating from a place of openness, honesty, purity and righteousness in your relationships.

If God is directing you, He will keep and guard your heart against all of those negative feelings. Even when God is involved that does not mean your flesh might not rise up on occasion, but God will ensure that those negative feelings cannot stay and will not last.

Remember that if you want a man you have to treat him like a man, not your son. If you do everything for him, provide everything for him he is not a man. He will be looking for a place and a woman that he can be a man to and that won’t be you.

I have talked about male and female relationships, but the truth is that we have to guard our hearts in every area of our lives. We have to guard our hearts from being manipulated by friends and loved ones as well. Even our children can use us if we do not guard our hearts against it. We as women try to do everything for everybody, to keep them from being hurt, but every person, even our children must go through what they have to go through to become who God destined them to be. Our children will hurt us by their choices.

After all of your sacrifices they may still choose to go in a different direction, one that grieves your heart. Learn to pray for them, that God will draw them back to Himself, because you cannot change them any more than you can change a man. If God does not make the changes then it cannot be done. Trust God to move in your situations and guard your heart.

In Jeremiah 17:9-10 the bible says 9 “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? 10 But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.” Guard your heart because whatever you allow to come in will determine what comes out and what you go after.

Scripture References:

Proverbs 4:23:
23 Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.

Copyright 2005-2007 New Beginnings Holistic Fitness Ministries. All rights reserved

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