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Remember, It’s Not About You!  Part 2 

By Angela Willingham

June 18, 2012

Maybe your thing is not a struggle with a sin or a struggle with your calling.  I got a call later the same day and a friend was telling me about her job.  She was working long hours, not getting paid what she thought she deserved.  She was being placed in positions that seemed unreasonable and all I could tell her is that while all of that could be and probably was very true, she needed to change the way she thought about it.  In the worst of situations God just wants to increase our faith, which is for our good and to give Him the glory.  It is a temporary position so when she finishes with the job it should be different than when she started, her prayers ought to change things. 


Remember, It’s Not About You!  Part 1 

By Angela Willingham

June 11, 2012

Wow, I had not realized that it had been so long since I had written an article for the site or done a podcast.  I just got back from being away in Iowa for a week for the home going services of my uncle.  I know it was a time of rest and preparation for the new things that God is doing in my life and through this ministry.  Every scripture and devotional I read while I was away confirmed this fact.  I woke up this morning and actually went to bed last night asking God what He wanted me to say.  So much has happened and I have been challenged in every way possible, challenged mentally, challenged emotionally, challenged physically, challenged financially and challenged relationally.  Challenged in every area that this ministry is supposed to help others.  I have been challenged.  Ever since I had got home Monday night May, 14, I had been having conversations with people that were also being challenged, if not the same situations, they were being challenged in the same areas and I know God was letting me know how much this ministry is needed by people.  This morning I got a call at 6:30am on my cell phone.  People that know me know that usually, I don’t answer the cell phone when I am at home, most of the time I don’t even hear it, but this morning was a divine appointment. 

A friend called to confess

 that she had lied to me about something and was just not feeling good about it.  As we talked I was able to comfort her, but I realized that God was giving me the topic for today.  The lie was not the issue.  She had been called and set apart for ministry and what I shared with her was that many of the things she goes through are to put her in a position of understanding how other people might feel.  She was being put in a place of compassion for others that may have lied or be lying unnecessarily.  It makes a huge difference when we go through things.  How we see others changes tremendously when we understand their situation or have a similar experience.  Going through things that others go through, raises our level of compassion and understanding for them and teaches us how to love them in spite of the situation or circumstance.  It helped me.

What I shared with my friend and co-worker about her situation was that it was not about her, it was about ministry and I realized that the same held true for me.  I was going through what I went through so that those around me could see God.  Whether they chose to accept Him was not up to me, but I had to represent Him.  I had to show love in the midst of being lied on and lied to.  I was betrayed by those that I considered closest to me and in the midst of that I had to continue to show love.  I felt myself being pushed out of the very thing I knew He had purposed me to do and I had to let it happen, because in the end it would be for my good and His glory.  It hurt, but it had to happen. 

It is difficult to love someone when they are hurting you, but when you have been called to be in a place you have to stay until God releases you.  You will want to release yourself.  You will want to give up and throw in the towel, but you must stay until He gives you permission to move.  It might not look like you think it should look, it might be totally or appear to be totally out of control, but we serve a God that is able to work in the impossible and He is doing what He is doing to raise our level of faith and trust in Him.  You will need that spiritual faith and trust to accomplish the great things He has in store for you.  It is not about the people that are hurting you.  It is not about what the enemy is trying to do to you.  It’s not even about you.  It is about God getting the glory out of your life and strengthening you for the journey.  Just to keep it clear, it was not about the people seeming to push me out.  God was moving me.  God was making it difficult for me to remain comfortable.  God's purpose for me was bigger than the situation I was in. Great things require great faith.  More than anything or anybody, I had to trust God.

Scripture Reference:

Hebrews 11:6:

6 And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him.

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Harsh Words Do Hurt!  Part 2 

By Angela Willingham

The enemy intends to use the very person or persons you care about to destroy you, to shut  you down.  His goal is to stop your future and to bring discord between you and the very people that should be loving on you and encouraging you to be all that you can be.  The abuse can come from a family member, a friend, boss or co-worker.  Don’t be fooled it can come from someone professing to be sent of the Lord, coming to you claiming God sent them to deliver a message.  The message they brought was one that was to get you straight and could send you on a rabbit hunt missing the will of God.  What about the parent that keeps telling you that you are dumb or stupid or that you will never amount to anything?  How many young peoples lives have been messed up because they believed the lie of the enemy coming from someone that should have loved and encouraged them?  What about the wife that couldn’t seem to do anything right.  She couldn’t dress right, talk right, do her hair right and no matter what she did to try to please her husband it was never good enough.  She was to big or to small.  She was lazy or to busy.  Whatever the case she was never right. 


Over the course of time these types of comments can take an emotional toll on a person and on a relationship.  Nobody can take being talked down to and belittled repeatedly.  This type of communication will change your personality and if you are not careful you can become like the person that is doing this to you.  You may become a mouse or doormat to be walked on and mistreated by others.  You lose who you are, who God created  you to be if you allow this treatment to go on to long.

Be prayerful and stay focused so that you know what is real and what the enemy has stirred and contrived to stop you and destroy you.  Most verbal abuse will affect you emotionally.  Over a period of time this abuse will begin to wear you down.  Unlike physical abuse you may not realize it is affecting you until it is too late.  The bible says in 1 Peter 2:9-10:  9 -10But you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God's instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night-and-day difference he made for you—from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.

I knew who I was.  I was the chosen of God and yet, I found myself sitting in a place taking verbal abuse and not realizing it.  Being quiet, because I just did not want to argue.  Being told I was the problem, yet I was not the one screaming and all I really wanted to do was help.  Being called drama, yet I did not say a word.  First we have to recognize that while the enemy might be trying to destroy us the word is clear when it says,  Romans 8:28:  28 And we know that God causes everything to work together[a] for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.  But because we know He will work it out for our good does not mean we should stay in an abusive situation.  We need to set our standards and then require people to treat us accordingly.  If you do not want to be talked to in a certain way, do not accept it.  Don’t sit and allow people to do whatever they want to do and then complain about it.  Stop it as soon as you see it rearing it’s ugly head.  If you are over the age of 18 you have the power to determine how people will treat you.   You can walk away. 

I told you that I was strong, but this happened to me.  Why?  So I could share my story, so I could help someone else.  I did not grow up in an abusive home.  I did not have a father or mother that was verbally abusive to me or my brother.  I was not in a marriage where my husband continually talked down to me or mistreated me.  I did not find myself in the place of being  pleaser because I needed the approval of others, but God had to allow me to experience it so that I would know how people who did grow up that way and did have that experience might feel.   

Here is the rule for our speech, Ephesians 4:29:  29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. 

Verbal abuse is abuse.  Stop yelling.  Stop talking down to one another.  Stop saying hurtful things.  Words leave wounds that are often difficult to heal because they cut deeply.  Children say sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me-well while that is something that children may say, it is not true.  Words hurt and their wounds are long lasting and far reaching, even into the next generations.

 Scripture Reference:

Ephesians 4:29:  Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.  



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