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What Do You See?  Is it presumption or is it reality?

By Angela Willingham


I have shared that 2013 is the year of The Real Woman.  It is our opportunity to get past being what others expect us to be and being who God created us to be.  I have had discussions with friends that have made significant changes in body, mind, spirit and relationships, yet they still see themselves as they use to be.  Women that have lost significant weight and still see themselves with the weight on.  After all of these conversations and giving them encouragement I realized I also sometimes have a problem with my vision, with seeing the new me, with seeing my situation and circumstances clearly.

What Do I See?

God has done a great work in changing my attitude and my behavior.  I have seen situations that would have caused me to do or say one thing result in my doing or saying something completely different.  No more upset, no more getting caught up in the confusion, but often waiting for His response and direction in what I am supposed to do or say.  I have watched Him change my perspective and how I view or see things is not the same.  No more grudges about the things you did or said to me.  Like Joseph in Genesis Chapters 37-50, I understand that every single thing that happened had to happen.  It was all part of God's plan to get me to this place.  Many times when we see the origination of the problem we look at the wrong thing, but if we will be still and be patient God will reveal the reality of the situation to us, but you must wait on Him.  He will give us a new perspective and no longer will we live in presumption.  There is usually a real problem in need of a real solution, a God solution and the only one that can solve it is God.  He wants us to stop being the fixer like Olivia Pope in the new TV series Scandal and turn that thing over to Him, the only Fixer.  Maybe you haven't noticed but Olivia Pope has her own problems and in all her fixing and manipulating those problems are very real.

When you look at yourself What Do You See?  When you look at  your situation and circumstances, What Do You See?  Do you still see another person as the enemy?  Do you still see yourself as not good enough?  Do you still see the glass as half empty instead of half full?  Do you still see all of your mistakes instead of the good that God has brought to you through those mistakes?  Do you still see the pain that others caused you and want to get back at them?  Do you still see and feel the anger and unforgiveness?

I was talking to a friend and while I can see the changes God has made in me, spiritually, emotionally and relationally, I could not see the physical changes.  I knew I had dropped almost 20 pounds and she has lost a little more, but when she said that her clothes were fitting baggy, I said I have not reached that point yet.  That is what I saw.  Forget the fact that I was wearing clothes I had not been able to wear for quite some time, my red suit and my purple suit (my favorite fitted suits).  Forget that.  I could not see the physical changes.  People would tell me what they saw, but I could not see it.  Lisa my friend and fitness instructor would tell me all the time.  I had gotten better at saying thank you, without all of the comments we make denying the changes because we can't see them.  I realized on yesterday, I was just like everybody else, what I saw was not in alignment with the truth.  Yesterday, when I got dressed I saw the pants suit I was wearing not fitting my hips the way it had in the past.  It was no longer fitting right.  (I said this to my friend and she said it is fitting right for your new size.  Okay, I get it.)  It use to be fitting on my hips and thighs and now it was just hanging.  I had been in denial about what was really going on with my physical body.  The weight loss was real and it was evidenced by the scale and the way my clothes fit. 

As I was driving to work, God gave me a few additional revelations about some other issues in my life.  While they had looked a certain way to me, He showed me that my perspective was off.  He showed me His perspective on the situation.  Being the gentleman that He is, He waited until I was able to deal with it.  Many times we see things a certain way when in actuality it is something completely different.  Often we want to deny the truth because, hey it allows us to live in fantasy not wanting to believe that the enemy really can and does use people that we care about in negative ways.  We want to believe they would never do that, when in actuality they can and will.  Do we need to blame them or find fault with them?  No!  We need to recognize them for who and what they are.  We need to pray for God to do something new in them and to open their eyes to their situation, while in the meantime moving forward with what He has given us to do.  Don't get caught up in the new revelation to the point that it messes up your forward movement.  Accept it for what it is and keep moving forward.  Let God be God in the situation.  Let Him be The Fixer.  For me God wanted me to see that what I had seen as the real problem really wasn't.  The problem was much deeper than that and I had to step back and allow Him to do what He needs to do with it.  I can see clearly now, what God is doing in me and around me and it is all good.  It may not always look like it but it is.  He needed to get me to a point where I would not trip or act unwisely, but would wait on Him and allow Him to fight my battle.  I have not always been at this place.  There was a time when I would have had to let you know and any Real Women reading this knows exactly what I am talking about, but no more.  God can do a much better job than I can with better results.  I am grateful for the opening of my eyes, the new revelation and the forward movement.

Ask yourself today-What Do You See?  Is it presumption or is it reality?  Be prepared to accept the truth about yourself and about your situation.  I am the better for it and you will be also.

Scripture References:

Psalm 139:13-15

New International Version (NIV)

13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Genesis 45:8

New International Version (NIV)

“So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt.

Genesis 50:20

New International Version (NIV)

20 You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.

Romans 8:28

New International Version (NIV)

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.


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