April 23 , 2007

Insecurity In Relationships, Part 2

Have you ever borrowed a friend’s car because there was something wrong with yours or for whatever reason?

Have you ever noticed how differently you treat their car than you treat your own?

Most of us are more careful to do things just right when we are using someone else’s car. That is because we know it is not ours and we are a little uncomfortable, insecure while driving it. When you have a good thing but it is really not your God thing in your heart and in your spirit you know it. You try to hold on because it is what you want but you have already received the warning message from the GBY (God’s Best For You) Broadcasting System.

After receiving the warning any damage that is sustained is yours. You will have to acknowledge that you were damaged by choice not by accident. It is not somebody else’s fault. Any insecurity you feel is self-imposed insecurity, because your spirit has been quickened to the danger and you chose to see a green light or yellow when God gave you a definite red to stop. How many of us have driven through the red light and then been surprised or acted surprised by the red and blue lights and the siren behind us, the consequences of our actions, death of people, death of your dreams, unnecessary damage and hurt to your emotions, and the delay of God’s purpose.

Maybe you have a rental car. They tell me that people drive rental cars carelessly. The attitude is, it isn’t my car. Most of us have driven a rental at least once in our lives. Be careful not to treat the rental, the good thing that is not your God thing badly. Your failure to care could cause costly damage that will have to be dealt with before you or the other person can move on. Your one night stand could become a 18 year child support payment and baby momma or daddy drama that you did not foresee nor do you want to deal with. He or she was nice, but, ah nobody really wanted this type of attachment.

Be secure in your relationships by:

1. Seeking healing of any previous hurts from God, so you enter any new relationship as whole as you can be. Give your partner a transformed you.
2. When you identify that as much as I want it, this is not the relationship God has for me (prior to marriage) get out of the relationship. By staying in the relationship you are delaying God’s best for you and for the other person. Choosing to continue in this relationship once you have received a revelation from God is selfish and detrimental to all involved as we put their purpose and ours on delay. Obey the GBY-That is the Holy Spirit speaking.
3. Be careful when you are in a relationship that is not the one God has put in motion, not to damage someone else’s car. You will be held accountable to God for what you do to God’s men or women.
4. Recognize that your insecurity is the sign of a much bigger problem, whether it is unhealed hurts or the wrong relationship. Listen to the voice of the Lord.

If you can’t do it on your own through the leading of the Holy Spirit, seek the counsel of a godly sister or brother to walk you through. Men seek the counsel of another godly man and women seek the counsel of another godly woman. Remember our goal is to heal emotions not to transfer them to another person of the opposite sex, thus creating another problem.

  Weekly Scripture:

Proverbs 1:29-33: 29 For they hated knowledge and chose not to fear the Lord.
30 They rejected my advice and paid no attention when I corrected them. 31 Therefore, they must eat the bitter fruit of living their own way, choking on their own schemes. 32 For simpletons turn away from me—to death. Fools are destroyed by their own complacency. 33 But all who listen to me will live in peace, untroubled by fear of harm.” (NLT)

Proverbs 1:29-33: 29 -33 "Because you hated Knowledge and had nothing to do with the Fear-of-God, Because you wouldn't take my advice and brushed aside all my offers to train you, Well, you've made your bed—now lie in it; you wanted your own way—now, how do you like it? Don't you see what happens, you simpletons, you idiots? Carelessness kills; complacency is murder. First pay attention to me, and then relax. Now you can take it easy—you're in good hands." (From the Message Bible)

Listen To The Lord and Obey!

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